You know, I’m not right about much…marriage has taught me this. And, to be honest, I see this as a strength. Understanding that being “right” about something is not the goal can be quite freeing actually. I used to be an agonistic, a Pentecostal, a Baptist, etc. And all the while, I believed wholeheartedly that my beliefs were ironclad…they were “right…
Read MoreIn therapy, one of the most tenacious foes I face is helping someone realize they're wrong. Most people that come into my office are just dead wrong! About what? About what they believe about their future. And boy are they certain that they have it all figured out! "Nothing will ever go right for me; no matter what I do, I'll never be okay; I'll never find the right person; I'll always struggle…be alone…a screw-up, ..."
Read MoreBreathing exercises don't work for everyone. This is more of a tip that turns into a trick, later. Years ago, after about 10 emergency room visits for anxiety attacks, one of the ER docs recommended that I try some deep breathing exercises. Well, I did. For about a minute. Until the concentrated focus on my breathing became the bigger issue…
Read MoreTruth be told, I'm not completely free of anxiety myself. There are times during performing therapy, for instance, that the "what if's" come to me like an eagle swooping down to claw up its prey. "What if I panic and have to leave the room?" or "what if I go blank and can't think of anything to say?" Yes, I still experience anxiety on occasion. One of the reasons: toxic anxiety can be a bully!
Read MoreI write a ton on anxiety. And when I write I usually include 700 words or more. Well, I want to include you busy readers as well. So I'm going to post small clips of thoughts/skills/techniques that I believe can be helpful in overcoming anxiety…
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