Passive aggressiveness is insidious and it has little respect for your thoughts on it. People are often passive-aggressive because they don’t have the necessary people skills to work through relational challenges head-on (I’ve been guilty of this). Is it your job to teach them people skills? No. So how can you deal with passive-aggressive people?
Read MoreWelcome back! As we consider together what makes a person strong, resilient, and well-adjusted, we come to Erickson’s second stage of human development…
Read MoreIn this article I’ll be using Erickson’s Eight Stages of development (link included below) as an outline, as his understanding of how humans develop into stable and flourishing individuals is creative and thorough…
Read MoreAfter doing therapy for some time, it didn’t take me long to feel that I was involved in some kind of game as a therapist. I began to feel like I was on candid camera or I was part of a mass prank…
Read MoreI used to resent homeless people, especially in the winter. I had this autopilot response when I’d see them bundled up, clouds of carbon monoxide vaporizing above their heads, trading spots on cold concrete to try and find some kind of warmth…
Read MoreYesterday, I was thinking about why people become addicted. Don’t remember where I heard this, but while thinking of this, something I learned years ago came back to me. When we seek refuge in drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, love or whatever the addiction may be, we are attempting to satisfy one (or all) of these three needs…
Read MoreYou can't overcome anxiety, addiction or depression without allowing yourself to, first, go outside of the box... a bunch. People often emotionally limp into my office and look at me as if I have all the answers, thinking I have some magic word/pill that will set them on their feet again - without their effort…
Read MoreWhen I think about who I am as a therapist and why I decided to pursue this wonderful and wacky helping profession, there are three memories that seem to encapsulate something that is very difficult to put into words…
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